FRED BURKS: Most of us have one or more core issues or challenges which surface repeatedly over the course of our lives. These issues are usually rooted in deep, unexpressed fears. Depending on your perspective, core issues either cause all sorts of problems, or present many opportunities for transformation.

When you choose to look at core issues as an opportunity, you are much more likely to transform your fears into learning tools which lead to a better life.

Below are the most common core issues, their related fears, and suggestions for dealing with them.

Examples of Common Core Issues and Associated Fears

Abandonment - Nobody cares about me. I'm all alone. I don't matter.

Arrogance - I'm better than all of you. I'm too much. I'm right and you're wrong.

Damaged - Something is wrong with me. I'm a failure. I'm damaged.

Inferiority - I'm not good enough. I'm stupid. I'm worthless. I'm boring. I'm hopeless.

Rejection - I'm a burden. I'm unwanted. Nobody wants to spend time with me.

Shame - I'm bad. I'm evil. I'm a mistake. I'm a monster. I'm disgusting. I'm possessed.

Our core issues often originate from childhood family scenarios. They can be a result of negative messages that were repeated many times to us by our parents or other significant people in our lives. Or one of these beliefs may have been driven deep into us during one or more traumatic experiences. Was one of the above statements drilled into you in your early years?

Note that some people are over-compensators. If you are in this category, you may unconsciously do everything you can to make it appear as if you are anything but your core issue. For instance, someone with inferiority as a core fear might outwardly appear very macho or domineering. Yet deep inside, this is covering up a fear of being inferior. A person dealing with shame may be overly nice and giving to cover up a fear that they are really bad. Particularly if you are having trouble finding a core issue, notice if any of your behaviour is opposite of the core issues above.

Examples of Behaviour of Over-Compensators

Abandonment - Always need to be included, join everything to avoid deeper feelings.

Arrogance - Act very humble, hiding their deeper belief that no one can match them.

Damaged - Present themselves as always great, avoid talking about their problems.

Inferiority – Macho, domineering, need to prove they are better than others.

Rejection - Present themselves as incredibly desirable, yet reject others easily.

Shame - Overly nice and giving. Over-competency. Secretly fear being exposed as fraud.

Whether you are an over-compensator or not, by exploring the deep, underlying fears of your core issues, you can transform your life for the better. Though you may find that you have more than one core issue, generally one will be more prominent than the others. Particularly if this is new to you, we highly recommend you first focus on exploring your most prominent core issue. To deal with this core issue, you can design intentions to gradually shift this deeply ingrained fear.

Suggested Intentions for Transforming Fears, Core Issues

Abandonment - I am worthy of love. I can find ways to safely share myself with others.

Arrogance - I can learn from all around me. I can see goodness in everyone I meet.

Damaged - I am whole and complete just as I am. I can choose to love all of me.

Inferiority - I am a good, valuable person. I can make meaningful contributions to the world.

Rejection - I am an attractive, interesting person. People can enjoy getting to know me.

Shame - I can be gentle with myself. I can hold the best intentions for all deep in my heart.

At the root of all of these core issues is a lack of acceptance and a deep feeling of being disconnected. The disconnection can be from ourselves, from others, from our spiritual nature, or from any combination of these. Here are two empowering intentions for dealing with these most basic core issues: May I ever deepen my acceptance of myself and all around me. May I choose ever deeper connection with myself and all around me.

The above intentions are merely suggestions which you may or may not choose to use. By developing your own statements that resonate more strongly with your personal experience, you can transform your fears on a deeper level. Set aside time to explore these issues. Change the wording any time you find something more appropriate. You might also invite close friends or family members to give suggestions. Writing down your intentions is highly recommended. Consider writing a set of life intentions, and review them frequently to help keep you on track.

Once you have developed your intentions, cultivate an awareness of how and when your core issue is triggered. Notice when you are telling yourself that same old story. Each time this happens, remind yourself of your deeper intention and open to shifting from your old, disempowering self-image into a new, fuller way of being. You can continually choose transformation by remembering to recognize fear as an invitation to growth.

This is not to suggest that you avoid or suppress your fears and core issues. Working to accept and understand all parts of yourself, including your core issues, opens the door to transformation and allows you more easily and naturally to access your beautiful deeper essence. This, in turn, can help you to live a much fuller and richer life. For over-compensators, who often have a strong tendency to avoid their fears, this is particularly important.

Don't be surprised if after having a significant breakthrough in transforming a core issue, you eventually find the same issue rearing its ugly head again in a different form. Most people find that transforming fear through working with their core issues is like peeling away layers of an onion. You make a significant breakthrough, only to eventually find the same issue manifesting in another, more subtle form. Yet as each layer is peeled away, you will very likely find your life to be richer, more meaningful, and more enjoyable than it was before.

By identifying and choosing to deal with our core issues, we can transform our deepest fears and end up feeling more alive and more connected with ourselves and with those around us. This then inspires us to participate more fully and effectively in building a brighter future for all of us.